January 27, 2015
I moved to Vermont, a township rural and small, not for the man or the mountains, but for the library that doesn't collect late fees. I fall in love with books, I cannot let them go. But what is a book if not shared?
It has been suggested throughout my checkered academic odyssey that Thoreau may not be for everybody. Wrong.
Maybe Thoreau's spirit resonates with me so right because I grew up a mile down the road from his woods (if only this actually made me cooler...). Romance and sentimentality aside, perhaps the magnetic sensation is widespread, is because his writing is celestially ubiquitous, the intrinsic brightness of a star. See: I to Myself: An Annotated Selection from the Journal of Henry D. Thoreau
July 19, 1851
Here I am thirty-four years old, and yet my life is almost wholly unexpanded. How much is in the germ! There is such an interval between my ideal and the actual in my instances that I may say I am unborn. There is the instinct for society, but no society. Life is not long enough for one success. Within another thirty-four years that miracle can hardly take place. Methinks my seasons revolve more slowly than those of nature; I am differently timed. I am contented. This rapid revolution of nature, even of nature in me, why should it hurry me? Let a man step to the music which he hears, however measured. Is it important that I should mature as soon as an apple tree? aye, as soon as an oak? May not my life in nature, in proportion as it is supernatural, be only the spring and infantile portion of my spirit’s life? Shall I turn spring to summer? May I not sacrifice a hasty and petty completeness here to entireness there? If my curve is large, why bend it to a smaller circle? My spirit’s unfolding observes not the pace of nature. The society which I was made for is not here. Shall I, then, substitute for the anticipation of that this poor reality? I would [rather] have the unmixed expectation of that than this reality. If life is a waiting, so be it. I will not be shipwrecked on a vain reality. What were any reality which I can substitute? Shall I with pains erect a heaven of blue glass over myself, though when it is done I shall be sure to gaze still on the true ethereal heaven far above, as if the former were not,—that still distant sky o’er-arching that blue expressive eye of heaven? I am enamored of the blue-eyed arch of heaven.
Thoreau, Henry D. I to Myself: An Annotated Selection from the Journal of Henry D. Thoreau.
Ed. Jeffrey S. Cramer. New Haven: Yale UP, 2007. Print.
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November 12, 2013
It is a Sunday and I wake from a mid-afternoon nap on the couch. I've just had a vivid lesbian dream. Nate catches me stirring and looks over at me, droopy-eyed. I feel guilty, like the dream is written on my face. He softly plants the words "Lou Reed died" into the room. I am still groggy and like a baby I immediately begin to cry. I cry for the lesbian I don't know in my dream, and I cry for Lou Reed. I maintain my post on the couch for a while, laying belly-side up and watching whitecaps bloom out of waves from a window. I feel an impulse to text message every man I've ever loved but instead I think about the probable death of other people that I will weep for, like Mick Jagger or somebody. I think it is all ending, music is over, and I put on a slow version of "Waiting for the Man" and I weep a little bit more.
By now I have read all of the eulogies; big - the Times, the New Yorker, Rolling Stone, and small - the unexpected E-mail from an old friend who is thinking about me and Lou Reed too. From the distinguished like Patti Smith and Laurie Anderson come intimate and inimitable anecdotes, like a first time meeting Lou and stories of exchanging poetry in elevators, of singing opera in elevators, of butterfly hunting, and apparitional visions of a last time seeing Lou. In the two weeks since his ultimate passing, it has become evident that everyone, not just his confidants, lovers, and collaborators, has a Lou Reed story to share. For those of us who never met the man or didn't achieve rock and roll fame in time, our stories are grounded and patterned, characterized by the singular moment that we heard what we did, when the Velvet Underground changed our lives.
I think of my first teenage love when I think about the VU. The day I met Tony Daynes on a beach in northern Massachusetts was the same day that my behavior resulted in being grounded under my mother's roof for the first and only time. Tony was mouthy, cynical, at times even rude. He went to a private school but his hair was longer than the other boys I knew from my conservative suburb - "shaggy" - and his voice was deeper, rounder than theirs. I was thirteen, and so was he. I had braces, and so did he. I wore an electric green Ramones t-shirt, and so did he, although his his was black and belonged to his girlfriend Kate whom I was both infatuated with and endlessly jealous of. Tony coveted the shirt the same way a child does the blanket given to them when they first left the womb, and though it was a constant reminder that he was in love with another thirteen year old girl instead of me, I liked our matching T-shirts. One time I showed an old babysitter a picture of Tony that I had discovered on his MySpace page and she told me he was "very Flock of Seagulls." I didn't know what the reference meant and so I dismissed it. Nothing was relevant except for Tony and Tony's Myspace picture. 10 years later I know what it means when someone says someone else looks "very Flock of Seagulls" and Tony doesn't, and never did, look very Flock of Seagulls.
Tony lived with his parents an hour away from my home and the frequency of our playdates relied on the generosity of our parents. I preferred Tony's house to mine and so once a month on a Saturday morning my mother drove me to him with the understanding that one of his parents would deliver me later that night. I liked Tony's house because I liked his parents, and I liked his parents because they left us alone. I liked Tony's house for the two big and bashful golden retrievers that came with the visit. I liked Tony's house because sometimes we would hang out in his dad's office unsupervised where the vintage Telecaster lived. Tony would play for me, strumming mainly aggressive and sloppy bar chords. I knew I was better on the guitar than he was but I never played for Tony or for anyone besides my mother. I liked Tony's house because it was bigger than mine. It was aged and many of the rooms seemed forgotten, as if nobody went in them anymore and hadn't for a long time. I never went in those rooms either but I know they existed because we would pass them on our way to more popular rooms and I would try to peek and ask Tony what that room was for. I liked Tony's house because it was always winter and the wall of windows in the living room let in a white cloud light that swallowed us whole and made the whole place feel damp. The windows looked over a neglected pool, asleep for the season in the middle of an overgrown backyard. I liked Tony's house because of the rusty brown couch in the basement where we spent most of our days together, sitting innocently side by side. On this couch Tony showed me films. On this couch Tony willingly shared with me illuminating and revelatory music like Guided by Voices, like the Jesus and Mary Chain, like My Bloody Valentine. And on this couch we sat together and exchanged few words while I heard the Velvet Underground's Loaded for the first time. The reissue was being sold as a double CD and the pink hologram on the cover shape-shifted while Tony held the case in his hands and professed his love. The music dribbled into my brain and oozed out through my limbs and I reveled in the pleasure of hearing something new and knowing I would never hear anything like it again.
It was imperative that I got this CD for my own keeping as soon as possible. There would be no more early bus rides to school, no more falling in love with one more person, no additional self-discovery, and no shedding any tears until this sound was also playing in the background as my soundtrack simultaneously. That same week I rode the commuter rail into Cambridge after school and took myself to the record store on the third floor of the garage that smelled of sugar and shrink-wrap. The album was more expensive than most of the other CD's around because there were two discs and because it was new and probably because of the pink hologram, too. Using three weeks worth of allowance I bought it anyway and every other VU album I could swindle.
While reflecting on my discovery of the Velvet Underground (& Nico too), I realized that I don't have memories of that definitive moment of exposure for other musical artists. I am more familiar with and even more devoted to other notable big guys like Neil Young and Dylan, the latter who pierced my heart some time during puberty and stayed there. But I don't remember the who, the how, or when with them. Was I in a car the first time Neil Young played to me through the radio and whose car was it and did I ask them to turn it up? What was the first Dylan song I ever heard and did I even like it? I can estimate that they happened to me sometime during early adolescence when I was a budding sentient and informed record collector, but it is ordinary and organic, as if one day they weren't there with me, and then the next day they had always been there.
Why do my opening moments with Lou Reed stand out exclusively? Why did the other guys blend together in a generic memory from sometime when I was crossing into cool? It has been suggested by a close source that it is because "Lou Reed was a weirdo." After chewing on this theory, it occurred to me that my exposure to an artist like Bob Dylan likely took place much earlier than I previously speculated. Because both Dylan and Young were one with the mainstream before I was even born, it is possible that I spent my childhood being involuntarily desensitized to their remarkable and otherwise noteworthy music via shameless car commercials and a steady flow of movie soundtracks. But Lou Reed never traversed airwaves to my ears unbeknownst to me. Lou Reed happened to me when I was ready for him to happen to me. Lou Reed never stopped being an irregular weirdo and he molded within me a very exquisite and a very irregular memory. And so on a rusty brown couch, Lou Reed will forever be with me.
November 3, 2013
September 21, 2013
Things happen in three's, everything comes full circle, life is suffering. I think when Buddha said "life is suffering" he should have included "but first you are going to be riddled with doubt in your twenties."
Our wanderings in the van are interspersed these days. Truth be told, I think I like this approach more than a seemingly never-ending nomadic style of being on the road - everything wears with time. I like the going away and I like the return. I like to move back and forth between the supposed normal (and sedentary) stasis and the perpetual motion of time spent on wheels.
Last week during a stint in the suburban day to day, I was left with a stiff neck from too much On Demand yoga and forced to watch less taxing cable TV instead. That movie (note: only female readers between the ages of 20-25 and their mothers need read) with Josh Hartnett and Leelee Sobieski was on. She has terminal cancer and falls in love with an alcoholic jock trust-funder after she hears him recite a Robert Frost poem (thus breaking Josh Hartnetts trucker hat loving heart). Having never seen it when it was even slightly relevant to my puny brain (age 10), I watched (some of) it and was reminded of said Frost poem. I am about to relate my feelings to a Robert Frost poem. This is a cry for help save me now. But really though - everything full circle - I totally want to be the swinger of birches, moving and grooving, leave and go away for a while, but then definitely come back later after I'm done flying around in the trees - again and again. Take that Am-Lit 1. But this romantic swinger's party (he he) makes for a constant feeling of being in limbo, my sins being lack of direction and indecisiveness (note: I wouldn't have it any other way, right?).
We took the van up to Vermont, where Nate and I met - everything full circle, babies - and where I hadn't been since I left. Typically I take all Dylan prose to heart: I'm an artist, I have everything I need, and I don't look back...unless it's California I'm leaving, in which case I am always fucking looking back. But I think I have the right idea because truthfully, I was blue to be back in Vermont. Unfortunate emotional shift aside, let the record show that Vermont is one of the good states. It's beauty different from a place like the Grand Canyon - though certainly less "spectacular," one can look up a picture of the Grand Canyon, and in my opinion there it is, there you have it. I hardly took any pictures this time because I've left the blogosphere mindset and because so much of what makes Vermont Vermont is seen and understood only in being there (note: the word 'blogosphere' is actually passing as a real word). Was I blue because I revisited a place after some time and realized that 5 years later I'm in the exact same situation? Or was I blue because because the luster of the liberated "home is where you park" mindset has dimmed 5 months later and now I'm good and ready to have a hardwood floor of my own to lay down the rugs that I bought back in New Mexico? I can't be sure, but it's probable that when I do get that hardwood floor that demands a paycheck, a schedule, and obligations, I'll meet with doubt again.